Until You Meet Your Mate
While you are waiting for the time and mate God
has for you, how do you relate to the opposite sex in the mean time?
When you are young your hormones are going like crazy and it is hard
when you are dating to not be thinking "Gee, is this the person I am
going to marry?" or other thoughts that want to go through your
mind. How do you keep your thought life under control and know
spiritually and relationally what Godís purpose and boundaries are
in your dating this person or that person? Until Jesus is ready to
introduce the mate He has for you, how do you keep control of Your
thought life? By asking Yourself three questions:
"Jesus, what is Your will for this personís
"What are the obstacles that are in this personís
life that are keeping Your will from being fulfilled?"
"What part do you want me to play in seeing these
obstacles removed so that Your will in this personís life can become
Knowing the answer to these questions will tell
you what your boundaries are in the relationship, Godís purpose in
your dating this person and what He wants to accomplish through you
in this personís life. Knowing the answers to these questions will
also immediately bring Your hormones at bay as you realize outside
of Godís temporary purpose this person is off limits for you beyond
your helping them spiritually in their relationship with Jesus.
When I met my wife she asked me for prayer about
Godís will for her in finding a mate. She was also very interested
in my Evangelism Training Program of which she went through both the
Basic and Advanced. As I was helping her, the Lord spoke to my heart
and told me she was His best answer for me in a wife. You may say
"How do you know this was the Lord?" After several years of marriage
to her I can testify that this was the Lord. We work together in
Jesus like a well oiled machine. One of the things the Lord
ministered to me when he began to deal with me about her was that
any problems we had would always be worked out. My wife is the most
wonderful person in the world. I am so thankful for waiting for the
one Jesus had for me and His timing.
Before this I had gone on many dates and asking
those three questions always made it a pleasant experience and we
walked away without any bad blood between us since Jesusí purpose
had been accomlished.
Sincerely in Jesus,
Dale P. Kruse