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Relationship With Jesus
The Key To Effective Ministry

Section 2, Chapter 6

The Key Issue

Study Questions:
  1. What is the key issue in evangelism, discipleship, counseling, marriage problems, and pastoral care?

  2. What gives us self-control over the weaknesses of our flesh?

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What is the key issue in evangelism, discipleship, counseling, marriage problems, and pastoral care?

 What Is Jesusí Will and Lordship
Over the Individual or Couple? 

Knowing the answer to this question will automatically tell you what the problem is and in most cases automatically what the solution is.

You see most peopleís problems are not their problems. Man does not have fleshly problems because he is weak. He has fleshly problems because Jesus is not Lord of his life. Paul tells us in Romans 1:28-31,

"And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper, being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil, full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; they are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful."

We do not have control over our fleshly lusts because we are more spiritual than the soulish man without Christ. We have control over our flesh because we acknowledge Jesusí Lordship over our lives and submit to his revealed will over our lives. The Epistle of James states that only when we submit to Jesusí will and Lordship over our lives will we then be able to resist and over come the devices and temptations of Satan and our flesh (James 4:6-7).

This will and purpose starts with what is revealed objectively in the Bible and then second through what is revealed to us individually by the Holy Spirit subjectively.

Except for fornication, marriages end up in divorce, if it is the woman's initiative, because the woman refuses to submit to Jesus Lordship over her life through the leadership of her husband in the home. Jesusí Word commands the woman,

"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church. He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything." (Ephesians 5:22-24).

The Bible is clear that any teaching contrary to this is not from Jesus, but is of the world and will lead to death (Prov 14:12). To the one who teaches contrary to this teaching Paul states,

"If anyone thinks he is a prophet or spiritual, let him recognize that the things which I write to you are the Lordís commandment, but if anyone does not recognize this, he is not recognized." (1 Cor 14:37-38).

Paul states here that you are spiritual only if you regard Jesusí teaching in His word the Bible and live by it. If you teach to the contrary Paul states you are not to be heard or recognized. You are wrong.

Divorce is high in the Church today because the Church has chosen to disregard the teaching of scripture and instead adopt liberal humanism in its teaching.

The Bible clearly teaches that Jesus leads the home through the man. Therefore when the woman submits to the leadership of the man in the home she is actually submitting to Jesus in her life. When she resists the leadership of her husband she is not rebelling against her husband but Jesus Christ. There is no exception unless she is being asked to do something immoral. This refers to only that which is black and white in Scripture, not gray.

When a wife does not submit to her husband she teaches her children they do not need to submit to their parents. If children do not learn the importance of submission to their parents, they will not submit to Jesus in their lives when they become adults.

Our society is deteriorating because we have rejected the Biblical teaching concerning the man-woman relationship in marriage. This is reflected graphically in the fact that we can no longer control the younger generation. They find themselves unable to resist premarital sex, drugs, and alcohol. It is also reflected in their lack of discipline in school. Children are graduating from high school who cannot read. Only when a child submits to their parents in the Lord will he or she then find Godís grace to resist the temptations of the flesh. Only as the woman submits to the leadership of her husband will she find Godís grace to resist the temptations of her flesh. Only as the man submits to Christís leading in his life and home through the Holy Spirit will he then find Godís grace to resist the devil and the temptations of the world. If obedience to Jesus Christ is not demonstrated in the man-woman relationship in marriage, obedience to Jesus Christ will not be lived out by the children.

Liberal humanism teaches that if the woman submits to her husband she will lose her personality, her soul. Jesus teaches that only when one loses their soul will they find it:

"Then Jesus said to His disciples, ĎIf anyone wishes to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. For whoever wishes to save his soul shall lose it; but whoever loses his soul for My sake shall find it. For what will a man be profited, if he gains the whole world, and forfeits his soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?í" (Matt 16:24-26).

You see the problem is not a fear of one losing their soul and personality, but rather a lack of faith in Jesus to fulfill his will and purpose for their lives individually through the authority they are under. The writer of Proverbs plainly states, "The kingís heart is like channels of water in the hand of Yehovah; He turns it wherever He wishes" (Prov 21:1). The greatness of our faith will be directly proportional to our ability to submit to the authority God has placed us under. If we cannot submit to the authority God has placed us under it is because we do not have faith in God that he has the absolute power to control and turn that authority according to His will and plan for our life. When we reject that authority, we are not rejecting the direct authority over us but actually Jesusí authority over our lives.

The greatness of the Centurionís faith in Matthew Chapter 8 was centered in his understanding of the importance of obedience to authority and because of his submission to that authority. Jesus said of this manís faith, "Truly I say to you, I have not found such great faith with anyone in Israel" (Matt 8:10).

Only as we submit to Jesusí will in our lives individually, in the marriage relationship, and corporately are we then walking in faith; and only when we are submitting to Jesusí will and Lordship over our lives will we find the solution to our problems and victory over them.

When we are looking to Jesus for the answer to our needs the first question we need to ask is what are the facts objectively. This must include of first importance, what is Jesusí will for us or the individual we are seeking him about? Without the answer to this question first, you will not be able to find Godís solution for the need at hand. This is because God plainly tells us in His Word: "There is no wisdom and no understanding and no counsel against Yehovah" (Prov 21:31). Outside of Jesusí will over our lives, there are no solution to our problems and whatever solutions we are given, they will not lead to life but will in the end make the problem worse and end in physical as well as spiritual death. "There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death" (Prov 14:12). Once You have discovered what Jesusí will is over the individual or couple, then and only then will the next three steps in our relating to Jesus for the answer to our needs lead to a true lasting solution.

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